What ticks you off?
The other day I got out of work and decided to run into a secondhand store real quick before coming home. I knew I shouldn't because I had a ton of things to get done at home. I'm browsing through the electronics and used books when my cell phone rings. It was my husband. "Where are you?" he asks. On the way home, I fib, as I slide an intriguing looking book under my arm, and head to the check out.
No one in line, good. I breathe a sigh of relief, when a woman runs up to the counter to grab items laying there pushing a heavily loaded cart in between me and the check out. "Mom", says a young girl. "Let her go first." The woman completely ignores her daughter, and cannot even decide what she wants and doesn't want. She confuses the cashier so much she had to start over. After what seems like hours she counts out her change to the penny, pays for her items and then shoves another item at the cashier, and yells across the store to her friend to come to the check out now and have her items rung up. It was bad enough when she cut in front of me, but now she was adding insult to injury. My face was burning, my toe tapping, and temper rising, as her friend with arms loaded started piling her items on the counter. I was afraid to say something because it would not have been pretty.
The young chubby faced girl shakes her head apologetically. I stand there arms folded, shaking my head also. This is one of the reasons I could not wait to get out of retail after working it for a number of years. The girl who looked to be about 12 was now blushing. I wondered how many such scenes she had endured. I, myself, had endured too many. Maybe it was my pay back for going to the store to begin with.
How should we handle people who have so little regard for others? I am open to suggestions. Mother brought me up to not be confrontational, but I was beginning to feel that these two did not have mothers and maybe I should give them some motherly advice.
5 comments:
I've been in similar situations. I also used to work fulltime in a music store, and I've similar stuff from behind the counter. (Music stores aren't quite as bad as retail stores, though; customers don't have as many options on goods.) I don't have any idea what you should do. It seems the very word "respect" is dying right out of our common vocabulary; that applies to everything, including parents ignoring children. Where I live, they wouldn't take any offered advice; they would be the ones getting confrontational. I guess that's one reason I stay at home most of the time.
Sorry for ranting. I really just wanted to let you know I was here.
Jason
Just reading your post, I can feel my frustration too. It often happens to me also, and I usually talk myself to just keep calm!
You're ten steps above them by avoiding confrontation..
In order to be a doormat, you must first give the other person permission to walk all over you.
I also lived most of my life putting up with inconsiderate people; until one day I said to myself, "No more!" I occasionally have relapses, where I slip back into the old self-deprecating mode, but I have become more assertive; and less a doormat. Some people just need "reality checks." Just because they had no upbringing doesn't mean you should put up with it.
Gerry
Lovely story, Judy!
I do not engage with such people, if my time gets used more than I can endure, I leave the store without my collected items. Often I realize this happens, because I really do not need these things. With grocery mostly another check out opens. Your article is timely. Thanks.
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